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FINDING TRUE LOVE

January 23, 2011 2 comments

One of the greatest blessings we get to enjoy in this wonderful life is the opportunity to LOVE and be LOVED. The greatest LOVE of all is our LOVE for GOD. The love for our family, friends and partner are all equally valuable and wonderful. In later posts I will be writing about each and every one of them. Today I will focus on writing about my views and thoughts about finding True LOVE in a partner for life.

I will like to start by saying that this is simply my opinion, I don’t believe for a minute I hold the ultimate truth. I will add that I might even have it all wrong. I simply will like to share my views on this matter and the advice, recommendations and guidance my parents have given me over the years in regards to dating, love and marriage that so far has provided me with the happy outcome expected. J

My father always told me that choosing who will you married or who do you decide to spend the rest of your life with, is the most important decision you’ll make in your entire life. I agree, this person is going to be your partner every single day for the rest of your life. Before committing yourself to someone for that much time, you should carefully analyze, reflect, and make sure that your goals and expectations of life and each other are really compatible. When it comes to dating, I don’t like to say DO date for a very long time, but I will say, DO consider dating for a GOOD WHILE so you can really get to know the person.

Dating can sometimes be a very annoying first step on meeting the potential love of your life. Meeting someone, presenting your best self and hiding all of your physical and character flaws in the best possible way is part of the whole experience. However, if you think about it, that whole game we all have played on those dates, is precisely what fuels everyone’s interest in each other.

I’ve heard so many times that nowadays somehow finding a good man has become more difficult. I truly believe there are still many good men out there also with the desire to find true love, a partner, a wife and a family. Our job as women is very simple, once you’ve found The One, or simply someone that you feel has some potential to become The One, BE SMART.

BEING SMART, a few recommendations:

 

1. Physical Attraction… Important??? YES!!!

Physical attraction yes, it is very important, even though is not ALL that matters, and a relationship will never last if its base on physical attraction alone, it is still a crucial must at the beginning of a relationship. This does not mean that you should only date good looking guys, this only means that you should definitely feel some sort of attraction or spark with potential for grow over time when you get to know this person better. Also, if you want a 10, you should also work on yourself to become a 10. You don’t have to look like a super model, but you should always take care of yourself. Eating right and exercising often is a must. Always dress your best, even if you are only going to the supermarket, look your best, dress to impress, you’ll never know when you will find your prince charming. 😉

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2. Do not expect Perfection.

First of all don’t expect anyone to be perfect, you are not perfect, no one is, so never expect perfection from a partner because you’ll never find a partner. Open your mind to endless possibilities and also keep in mind that a guy in love can change many things for you. A loving relationship is a work in progress. Don’t expect that in the first date you are going to click 100% and that from there you’ll live happily ever after. Take your time to get to know the person, give them the opportunity to show you more. You will always find flaws and virtues in every potential mate. As long as you see more virtues than flaws, then you are in the right track.

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3. The Power of Mystery.

 

On your first dates, never reveal your whole life story by describing every single detail. Leave some stuff for his imagination. If he asks about your past love life, never show resentment or anger you may have build up within. Work on that on your time. Answer his questions but be politely vague. Don’t go too deep into extremely painful life experiences you may have had in the past. Save them for when your relationship becomes stronger and deeper. At the beginning of dating, there is nothing more scary to a man than going into a relationship with someone with too much drama or too much trouble in their life.

Don’t get me wrong, it is great to share your past pain and suffering with the one you love. And now that I’m married, I do it all the time, (poor husband of mine) when my husband and I share all our issues, when you love the person you want nothing but to help them resolve and overcome all their issues, and this sharing brings you even closer to your partner. But when you don’t love the person yet and you are barely getting to know them, revealing all your past drama can seem a bit overwhelming and simply a lot of work.

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4. Once you know you like him and he likes you, LET HIM PURSUE YOU!!!

 

Men by nature like to be the hunters. Let him pursue you. There are many subtle and classy ways to show him that you are interested too but that it is still up to him to make the first move. God created the women more fragile and the men stronger. We shall simply follow and act according to the laws of nature. Nature and the universe are very wise. I have a husband and many male cousins and they have all share with me some of the insights of how men think when it comes to choosing someone special. They like challenges and loveeee mystery. 😉

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5. I’m with Patti Stanger… “No Sex before Monogamy”

 

I can’t highlight enough the importance of this rule. I was raised in a family with very traditional beliefs and values, and while I do know that times have changed, some rules still apply and should always remain the same.

The act of sex is the greatest expression of LOVE. If you are serious about finding someone special, this rule is a MUST. This is also a big part of keeping the mystery on play. Waiting the appropriate time on being intimate with your partner will only strengthen your relationship and you will have the certainty that your partner is with you because he loves you and he cares about you, and most importantly, if he is really worth your time, he will wait. After all, good things come to those who wait. 😉

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6. If you think you are doing everything right and nothing happens, DON’T SWEAT IT!!! HE’S SIMPLY NOT FOR YOU AND YOU’RE ONE STEP CLOSER TO FINDING THE ONE!!!

I know it can be pretty discouraging when you’re single and you think you’ve found THE ONE, and turns out he wasn’t. You have to understand that this person that wasn’t what you were expecting to be, GOD put him in your path for a very good reason that you might not understand now, but later you will. Make it a habit of thanking GOD for the experience, good or bad, always be thankful to GOD for another opportunity to learn something new. Ask him with total faith to give you the strength to be able to “FLAP YOUR WINGS AND LET GO OF THE STORY”

GOD will listen to you, GOD always listens to those who talk to HIM with faith. LIFE becomes extremely exciting and interesting when we surrender ourselves completely to HIM. I can’t highlight this enough, if you have faith, he’ll take care of you all the way 100%.

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Once again, when it comes to dating, love and marriage, this is merely an opinion, and I know that there are exceptions to every rule. But I do believe that you have a higher chance to find True Love, if you follow a couple of these recommendations.

I’m aware that I might have a bit radical views about this matter; I was raised very conservative and old fashioned. I’ve simply shared with you my experiences and what has work for me in my marriage and what I have observed and learned from very loving couples I’ve gotten the opportunity to know over the years.

God bless you ALL!!!

-Lizbeth

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Your Body Is your Temple

January 19, 2011 2 comments

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Yesterday I read something that I would like to share with you:

“You are one special being born from the joining of one sperm out of approximately 500 million and one egg. You are already a winner, a divine being comprised of a body, mind and spirit. You already have everything you need to  live to your highest potential, to live fully.”

It starts with taking care of yourself. Cherish, Love, and respect your temple unconditionally no matter what the current shape. ” – Susan Smith Jones, PH.D.

I loved reading this, it couldn’t have read this at a better time. You see I have been stressing these past weeks with self image. I tend to be very harsh on myself, criticizing every small flaw or imperfection; I have since I was a kid. I should tell you I was a chunky kid, so of course I was teased a lot back then and that has carried all the way through my adult life. Though I have gotten better, there are times more often then I’d like, when I fall back into old habits of staring at myself in the mirror or going through pictures thinking of everything negative there is about me.

Reading this made me realize that I need to STOP. We are all guilty of doing this to ourselves at some point, but why?  Our body does such wonderful things for us on a daily basis, it really  is our “temple” and it will respond to the care, love and respect we give it regardless of the flaws it may have.  Last year that I began being active I saw that this is true. My body responded in such wonderful ways, I had more energy, I didn’t get sick as often, I lost weight, my clothes fit great! And yet this old habit of mine still haunts me.

As I finished reading that small piece of wisdom, (because truly that is what it is) I decided that I will make the necessary adjustments to my body to give it the respect and love it deserves. I mean when I thought about all the body does not just on the outside but all our organs inside us, how could we not want to take care of ourselves.  So as of today I am committed to embrace a healthier lifestyle, eat healthy foods, exercise regularly (I like many, tend to fall off the bandwagon often) , but most importantly I will only embrace positive thoughts about my body.

From now on I will visualize my body as my friend not my enemy that won’t fit into my jeans! So next time you are beating yourself up like I was, remember that we only have one body for our lifetime so we should take better care of it and give it all the love it deserves!

-Fabiola

AHA Valentine’s Day Fundraiser/Mixer

January 11, 2011 4 comments

As I had mentioned before I am a volunteer and proud supporter of the American Heart Association. This year  I am the Event Coordinator Chair for the Community Teams Committee . On behalf of the Community Teams Committee, I would like to invite you to a Valentine’s Day Mixer we will be hosting on February 10. The fundraiser/mixer will take place at Modul & Toke Studio located at 2136 Kettner Blvd. in Downtown San Diego from 6-8 PM. We will be taking $10 donations at the door; our goal is to raise $500. All proceeds will benefit the Heart Walk Community Teams fundraising efforts. Please RSVP to Fabiola Baylon at Fabiola.baylon@gmail.com by January 30. Thank you and I hope to see you all there!

Warm Regards,

Fabiola Baylon2011

Community Teams Committee Event Coordinator Chair

 

 

Be Active….Participate in Your Life!!!

December 31, 2010 2 comments

With the new year right around the corner everyone starts to think about their resolutions for the upcoming year. We do so, the new year starts and stick to them for about a second and then they are out the window. Towards the end of the year we start realizing that we could have done so much more with the year, our time, our life. Trust me I am the first to do this over and over.

I am the one who is always saying, “One day I’ll do this, or one day I’ll go there.” I have been guilty of being the one who sits on the sidelines thinking  what it would be like to travel like my friends have, to have my own house, to have my degree finally, to be able to fly and conquer the world without hesitation. When all this time I had the power to make it happen as do each and everyone have.  This year; I have been making small changes that make me want to do more and more. What was I thinking just watching my life go by or be lived the way others wanted. That was the old me!  Now with this new year I am not going to make resolutions because  we should do the things that make us happy everyday. We should work on our goals on  a daily basis. Not sit on them until the new year is near us again.

What I am saying is BE ACTIVE in your own life,OWN IT! Think of all the things that you’d like to accomplish and haven’t yet for whatever reason. Once you have an idea of all you want to accomplish work on doing one thing every day or  every week. Don’t wait until it is too late…As I crossed some items off my list this year I  have come to see that doing so was and is an essential part to making my life a grand celebration!!!

So go out there and Participate, Live and Celebrate your life!!!

-Fabiola

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE!!!

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Dream,Dream, Dream!

December 13, 2010 2 comments

A dream is a hope, a wish, and an aspiration. This past year has been one of reflection and personal growth for me. During this time I have come to realize what my hopes, wishes and aspirations in life are. Getting to this point has definitely been a journey full of ups and downs.  You see many times in my life I have been told that I couldn’t aspire to anything whether it be in my personal life, in school, career etc. Logically when people  tell you harsh comments like this one over an over throughout your life you start doubting yourself and you conform, settle  putting aside all your dreams and aspirations.

Being a bit older now, I realize that people will try tell you that you won’t get anywhere simply because they can’t get there themselves. I have learned that if you have a dream, you have to protect it. Not everyone can see your vision, not everyone will see what you are capable of achieving and that is okay. No one has to see it, the only one that has to see it and believe it is YOU!  My only piece of advice is to never let anyone tell you you can’t do something! Fight for what you want in life! And remember, when you want something, the universe will conspire in helping you achieve it! So dream big my friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

-Fabiola

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Update: HOLIDAY BLANKET AND SOCKS DRIVE!!!

December 10, 2010 Leave a comment

 

 

YourFriendsToo in collaboration with two of our good friends and The Gonzalez Sports Academy, are starting a blanket and socks drive to bring a little warmth this holiday season to those less fortunate than us. Our plan is to take them to the City of Angels orphanage in Tijuana B.C. where they are in constant need of blankets for the children as well as to homeless shelters around San Diego County. In addition to the blankets we were informed that both the orphanage and shelters are in need of socks. So if you could help us out with that as well we’d all appreciate it!

Please support us by donating, it is REALLY COLD out there and there are many people who need warmth this holiday season… If you would like to donate please contact us or drop off your donation at Gonzalez Sports Academy!!!!

 

Official Drop Off Location:

2390 Boswell Road, Suite 400

Chula Vista, CA 91914

 

Thank you for your support and generosity!

YourFriendsToo and our Friends Gonzalez Sports Academy

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