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HOW TO LEARN TO FOCUS ON YOUR BLESSINGS INSTEAD OF YOUR LOSSES…

January 14, 2011 Leave a comment

Acknowledging our blessings and not minding our losses can be pretty challenging. Unfortunately it is within our nature to focus more on what we don’t have or use to have rather than what we DO HAVE in THE NOW. GOOD NEWS!!! There is something we can do about it 😉

I consider myself a very blessed human being, and although I’ve had some very painful losses in my life, I’ve also due to those experiences, have learned as a MUST to be thankful and count my blessings every single day. As a result, my losses are now perceived more as lessons needed to be learned to become a better human being and to serve God in the best possible way.

How to do it? How to have a thankful and appreciative attitude every day?

Every day, every morning when you open your eyes you have a very important decision to make. You have 2 choices, you and only you have the power to pick the one you really want. You can wake up and say:

  1. 1.    GOD Thank You for allowing me to wake up this morning, open my eyes, be alive, and have this and that, and that and so much more…

 

OR

 

  1. 2.    God, why is it that I lost him or her? Why this happened to me, to my family? Why I don’t have this, and that, and so much more that I NEED to be happy?

 

Learn to ALWAYS, ALWAYS pick number 1. Make it a habit of learning to pick number 1. Even in your darkest hours make it your biggest challenge to pick number 1. Remember that choosing number 1, by universal law, you will always attract even more blessings to you and your surroundings, and know that for your number 2 question, you will NEVER, NEVER hear an answer that will bring you peace, you will simply attract more unpleasant and negative outcomes into your life.

GOD is ALL knowing, who are we to question him?

 

In my case the loss of a loved one makes it extremely difficult not to ask myself that number 2 question, THE WHY, WHY ME, WHY MY FAMILY. It is a challenge that I face every single day of my life, but I can honestly tell you that I’m getting closer to that place where every day that challenge seems to be easier to deal with. Everyday instead of focusing on the why I lost him or why this happened to my family, I focus more on being thankful to GOD for the wonderful blessing of having a True Angel as my Baby Brother and as part of my family, getting to know him was truly being for many years on the mere presence of PURE LOVE.  

Make it a habit!!! COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS, BE AWARE and BE PRESENT in THE NOW. GOD is all knowing, GOD is a FAIR GOD, I know I’ve written this so many times in previous posts, but I can’t highlight this enough. Trust HIM, truly trust HIM and his plans for you.

GOD gave us the most powerful blessing, FREE WILL, our ability to make choices. Let’s use his wonderful gift to our advantage and well being. ALWAYS pick number 1. Always be thankful for what you have and for what you use to have, because we all have so much to be thankful.

GOD bless you ALL and your families 😉

-Lizbeth

WHETHER YOU THINK YOU CAN OR YOU CAN’T, EITHER WAY YOU’RE RIGHT!!

December 28, 2010 2 comments

Very powerful statement. One of the many lessons learned from my father. As someone who overcome many obstacles and barriers to get where he is today, my father is a vivid example of the power of your thoughts.

Our mind is the most powerful gift we’ve been given. In addition to its power, our mind can be a very tricky tool with various features at our disposal. However, when facing difficult and painful situations in our life, learning how to use them all can be pretty challenging. As a depression survivor myself, I’ve experience a very dark side of our mind as a consequence of very negative thoughts.

After hitting rock bottom during my darkest hours, I realized that by being depressed I was actually causing a lot of pain to the people I love the most. All of the sudden I started to rationalize my situation and concluded that being depressed is basically a whole a lot of thinking of ME, then ME and ME again. Surprisingly enough, I switched from feeling extremely victimized by my circumstances, to feeling extremely selfish.  

I made a decision, I didn’t want to live my life like that anymore, and most importantly, I wouldn’t want to be the cause of unhappiness for anyone else. I started thinking about people who have gone through even toughest life’s situations than mine and how they were able to survive and move on with their lives. I convinced myself, if they could do it, I CAN TOO!!! And I was RIGHT, I was absolutely RIGHT.

Whether you want to get out of a depression, have a better career or a better relationship, if you think YOU CAN do it, YOU WILL. If you think you CAN’T, you are absolutely RIGHT, you’ll never will. It sounds very simple but yet is very difficult to actually practice it. If you think about it, using simple logic, you’ll realize that the only thing you must do to make that change in your life is make a decision, and you and only you have the power to make the correct one.

Very few problems in our life are cause by circumstances out of our control. Most of them are cause by our thoughts, our perspectives and sometimes unrealistic expectations of people and situations.

Let’s make the RIGHT decision, let’s choose to be HAPPY, let’s choose I CAN!!!

God Blessed,

-Lizbeth

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“FLAP YOUR WINGS!!! Let Go of the Story”

December 20, 2010 2 comments

Eckhart Tolle has enlightened us by describing how a duck’s fight plays out every time.

 According to Tolle, a duck’s fight, which never last very long, always finishes by both ducks flapping their wings and releasing all the tension and negative energy build up during the fight. After they Flap their wings, they separate and float off in opposite directions. That is exactly what we us humans often struggle to do with everyday people and situations.

“Flap your Wings!!! Which translates, Let Go of the Story” is a principle very difficult to live by. How many times we caught ourselves replaying in our head direct attacks or simply a rude comment that hurt our feelings? What we are actually doing is creating a story in our head that without us even noticing, builds up resentment and negativity in our most valuable treasure, THE NOW!!!

If we look closely, nature and the universe are full of very insightful life lessons. We should practice careful observation of our surroundings and LEARN!!!

Be AWARE of your thoughts. Once you’ve found yourself making a movie in your head, be PRESENT, experience those feelings/thoughts and notice what they do to your body internally.

Once you’ve become aware of the pain you are experiencing, ask yourself the following:

Would these thoughts help me in any way to feel better right now?

Would these thoughts help me to go back in time and prevent X situation from happening?

The answer will always be NO!!!

Once you’ve answered those questions using simple LOGIC, you should pull yourself together, close your eyes, take 3 deep breaths and…. FLAP YOUR WINGS!!! Let Go of the Story!!!

I’m telling you, I do this all the time and it works!!! This is the most important habit we should all learn to master in life. We do not live in a perfect world, and like my dear friend Fabiola mentioned in her article about the importance of having dreams, you will always encounter people on your path that will be determined to put you down simply because they’re down themselves.

The key is to not take it personal and ask GOD for STRENGHT to be able to FLAP YOUR WINGS EFFECTIVELY.

NEVER, NEVER, keep your eyes away from that goal you have. Obstacles and barriers to overcome will always be on our path. Conquering them all is what will prepare us to get where we want to be.

START TODAY!!! FLAP YOUR WINGS and stop carrying that past in your head and heart.

BY RELEASING YOUR DARK PAST, YOU WILL BRIGHTEN YOUR FUTURE!!!

God Blessed,

-Lizbeth

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WHY SHOULD WE WELCOME SUFFERING?

December 13, 2010 5 comments

Humanity has been taught that Suffering is Bad, and that we, our friends and family should never have to suffer in any possible way. Eckhart Tolle, challenged this idea in his book “A New Earth” under the concept of Conscious Suffering. His very insightful words changed dramatically my perception and expectations of LIFE.

One of the main reasons why I decided to start this blog is to share what I’ve learned from very significant and brilliant people I’ve encounter in my life. My views and perspectives of LIFE have changed over the years very drastically. As we get older, we start evolving and all our life experiences, especially the very painful ones shape our beliefs and change us forever. It is up to US to choose whether we want that change to be a positive or a negative one.

As someone who felt deep into depression and even required medication to help me recover from it, I can tell you that at some point in my life I did choose the negative approach. The outcome of a very negative thinking and a negative attitude was not pleasant at all. Thankfully with the help of GOD, family and friends I was able to rise above it and move on. At a certain point, I embraced my depression; I searched deep into my soul and my being, and that’s when I finally transcended my crisis and became a different person.

Suffering is part of life. Without suffering we cannot evolve, we cannot transcend. So what does it mean to Suffer Consciously? To suffer consciously is to ACCEPT suffering, to embrace it, learned from it and MOVE ON!! According to Eckhart Tolle, suffering consciously is good for our soul because it drives us deeper. He states that we have to say YES to suffering before we can transcend it. Very wise words.

When someone does not suffer consciously, often they portray themselves as victims, and their ego enjoys very much being a martyr, someone who for some reason the Universe and God is good to everybody else but not to them. This reasoning will only multiply your pain and suffering and will prevent you from discovering the real reason why God and the Universe wants you to experience such PAIN.

In my personal experience, I can tell you that I’ve acquire the most knowledge and the most significant inner transformation and spiritual growth when I’ve gone through painful and difficult situations in my life. Now I see those experiences as valuable lessons that God place in my path to prepare me to be a stronger human being and most importantly, to have the certainty that regardless the life changing event, He will ALWAYS be there for me, He will give me the STRENGHT to survive any circumstances, and that He will ALWAYS take care of me. That realization is extremely comforting.

I’ve learned that life is extremely fragile and that in any second our life can be turned upside down. We shall not fear PAIN, when you’re close to GOD and truly trust his plans for you that fear will completely disappear.

Many times when we think that someone we love dearly is making a mistake, we believe that is our moral duty to keep them from making it and thus keeping them from suffering. While we might prevent temporal suffering in the present, we are also preventing them from experience and facing the world, and what might be even more awful is that by preventing this small temporal PAIN, we might be inflicting a lot more painful and permanent suffering for them in the future.

Preventing suffering prevents evolution and self-growth. According to Tolle, what we may perceive as mistakes for other people, it might be exactly what they need to do or experience to prepare them for what it is to come in their lives.

LIFE is wonderful and suffering consciously will only open our minds and hearts to LOVE, VALUE and APPRECIATE everything and everyone in this incredible gift we were given called LIFE.

Hopefully these words brought comfort to someone out there 😉

God blessed,

-Lizbeth

WHY SHOULD I GIVE WHAT I DON’T GET?

November 29, 2010 Leave a comment

I have to say, one of the hardest habits to acquire is precisely that one; Give what you don’t GET. Eckhart Tolle covers this discipline under the concept of Abundance. He advices us to try it for a couple of weeks.

“Whatever you think people are withholding from you- praise, appreciation, assistance, loving care, and so on- give it to them. You don’t have it? Just act as if you had it, and it will come. Then, soon after you start giving, you will start receiving. You cannot receive what you don’t give. Outflow determines inflow”

 

“Outflow determines inflow,” how hard is this, I must say, VERY. I believe that giving love, praise, appreciation, and assistance to the people that we love and truly care for is extremely easy. That is NOT the challenge. The challenge that God wants us to conquer is to give all that to the people in our lives that have caused us pain in any given time or with the ones that we tend to not get along very well. That’s what Jesus meant when he said “Love your enemies! And pray for those who persecute you!

 

Believe me I know, when we read these words, they seem very easy to follow, but when it comes to translate those words into action and to actually practice them, that’s when the struggle kicks in.

First of all we have to understand that it is 100% okay to struggle. We are all very sensitive human beings. Even the toughest one can be easily hurt when it comes to sensitive subjects particular to them. What should we do when people hurt us?

In my personal experience, takes time, and it is okay to take time. Takes time to accept the situation, take it as an experience, DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL, learn from it, and move ON!!!

What’s the next step after you’ve moved on? Remember Jesus, “Love your enemies! And pray for those who persecute you!

Most likely, those who have hurt you deeply are in DEEP suffering themselves. Use the following logic: HAPPY PEOPLE SPREAD JOY!!! UNHAPPY PEOPLE SPREAD DRAMA AND TROUBLE!!!

Pray for them, and ask GOD for strength and FAITH to be able to not take it personal, because unfortunately it is within our nature to take attacks towards ourselves VERY PERSONAL. God knows that, but he wants us to FIGHT!!! TRULY FIGHT OUR NATURE and become AWARE and become PRESENT. Once we become PRESENT, that’s when we will be able to GIVE what we DON’T GET from people. That’s when we will see difficult people in our lives as challenges from GOD and the Universe. We will see them as agents to bring CHANGE in our lives, just as many times GOD will use US as challenge agents to other people.

GIVE WHAT YOU DON’T GET, that’s the biggest CHALLENGE in EVERYONE’S life. Once you do it once, you’ll be bringing CHANGE to someone else’s life, GOD will notice, GOD will be with you and GOD will bring CHANGE to YOUR life too. No one better than HIM, knows about forgiveness and praying for your enemies.

Let’s give it a try 😉 When someone in particular comes to our minds that deserves the least of our attention, care or appreciation, let’s give it to them, of course expecting NOTHING in return. Let’s see what happens. You’ll be surprised!!! 😉

God blessed,

-Lizbeth

FORGIVENESS, bringing the BEST OF US…

November 22, 2010 1 comment

At some point in our lives, we all have been wronged by someone. Being emotionally bruised can have serious consequences in our life. Although it is clear that when people attack us for no apparent reason, it is due to personal issues that he/she is going through, we can all agree that still is really difficult to let things go and forgive. The truth is that for the rest of our lives we will be dealing with difficult people, sometimes we might be difficult ourselves, and that’s OK, it is part of life and our nature. Therefore, learning to forgive and move on is THE MOST IMPORTANT SKILL we must excelled in this school called LIFE.    

When we learn to forgive the people who wronged us, that’s when we bring THE BEST OF US to the world. We will encounter people in our lives that will be determined to bring us down, again, it might not be personal, but still God will put them in our lives as an opportunity to bring either the BEST or the WORST of us. That’s our every day CHOICE. Every crisis in our lives, we should see it as an opportunity for us to show God and the world the BEST of us.

Forgiving does not mean that you are excusing the behavior of the attacker. It simply means that you shall not let them dictate your destiny. God and the universal order will take care of them. You have bigger things to do in this life than holding on to resentments. Replaying in your head what they’ve done to you WILL PREVENT YOU FROM FULFILLING YOUR DESTINY, FROM FULFILLING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE, and will prevent you from enjoying the NOW. Do not allow them to make you miss the Great Future God has for you. They might not deserve to be forgiven, but you DO 😉

Now the question is, how can I do that? It looks really nice and easy in writing, but what can I actually do to learn to forgive. Here it comes, very very EASY. TRUST GOD!!!

The brilliant and very wise Joel Osteen states in his teachings, “God will make your WRONGS RIGHTS, He is a FAIR GOD, He will repay your wrongs with double RIGHTS.” “FAITH activates GOD, FEAR activates the Enemy.”

Trust GOD; surrender yourself to him. Acknowledge that you have control over NOTHING. If you really reflect on this very statement, you will find that lack of control, what is commonly perceived as uncertainty and anxiety, when you are truly ONE with GOD, lack of control is in fact extremely comforting. You no longer have anything to worry about; God will fight your battles.

He knows who has hurt you, he knows who has made you cry, when you’ve been ill, he’s been there with you, holding your hand and crying with you. He will restore you, he will ease your pain, you must simply trust HIM. No one better than him knows about PAIN.  

Jesus forgave and prayed for people who betrayed him for a few coins, people who were jealous and intimidated by his knowledge and enlightening teachings, people who abused him physically and verbally. Is there really anything that we cannot forgive?       

 The most dangerous aspect of not knowing how to forgive, is to become what you hate. We shall not allow that, we shall be the change, we shall be AWARE and be present in the NOW, learn from the past, and be optimistic of the future.

Forgiving brings the BEST of US and brings us closer to GOD. Even in your darkest hours, trust GOD, trust the plan he has for you. Simply always do your best in every situation and let GOD worried about the rest. When you truly trust HIM, you’ll be amazed on how obvious he will demonstrate you he’s been listening to you and how well he will take care of you. God blessed 😉

-Lizbeth

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Would you rather be RIGHT or HAPPY?

November 16, 2010 Leave a comment

I guess you can say I learned this one the hard way. Many times in my relationships with people when there was a discussion or even a casual conversation, if I knew I had a valid and truthful point/argument, I tended to go all the way until I prove that I was RIGHT. Big mistake. Although most of the time I’m RIGHT 😉 haha, one of the more clear manifestation of our EGO is that urge to prove our point. If we take a second and become aware of what fuels us to argue, is precisely that, OUR EGO. We are so identify with our views and thoughts that we truly believe that our thoughts make us WHO WE ARE. That is why when we are trying to prove a point, we perceive it as if we are defending our very SELF.

We must realize that when we finally prove our point, most of the time we end up hurting someone, and almost always is someone we love. Would that really make us happy? Our thoughts are nothing but OPINIONS. Nothing more. Like in Zen’s teachings: “Don’t seek the truth. Just cease to cherish opinions.”

This is not an easy habit to acquire, and it is totally okay to fail from time to time. The important skill to practice is to BE AWARE. BE AWARE of the presence of our EGO. Our EGO will ALWAYS bring UNAHAPPINESS and suffering to US and OTHERS. So next time you find yourself in the middle of an argument, do this exercise, take a deep breath and be aware of your EGO acting within you. BE AWARE OF IT AND CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY, NOT RIGHT 😉

-Lizbeth

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